Getting Over A Break Up To A New Beginning
Chris • onRelationship 8 years ago • 4 min read

Getting over a break up can be very difficult and especially so if you have not been the one to break off the relationship. Scientists have confirmed that mourning for the loss of a loved one is quite similar, because in moments of loss and also in the process of getting over a break up, you tend to hang on to the happy emotions associated with the other person’s presence in your life. These situations can be very difficult but at such times you have to be strong and tell yourself that you can be brave enough to handle it, move on and then subsequently find someone better for yourself.

Though at start it may seem difficult, you have to realize that being stuck in a bad relationship is much worse than actually breaking off and repenting it later. So once you end a bad relationship, you have to deal with it yourself! Being associated with some support groups will aid in the healing up process. Also, while in the process, you have to be at peace with yourself and not get bogged down by unnecessary thoughts and apprehensions.

It’s terrible to go through this phase and at times your other trouble can make it even further complicated, but you have to remember that you are not the only one suffering because of it. Individuals around you are going through the same trauma and they emerge stronger and so will you. Come to think of it – had you not experienced this in the past, you would not have met your current partner. Everything has a brighter side to it and this break up may just lead you to finding the person of your dreams, someone you could not have found had you continued with this relationship.

While getting over a break up, you will firstly need to find out what the category of the break up is. Did you decide to break it up, did your partner decide to break it up, or was it a joint decision? While getting over a breakup is definitely easy if you call the relationship off, but it is extremely difficult when you’re the person who’s been deserted. However, if it’s a joint decision, the process becomes less complicated. To start well, you need to know which category you belong to.

It may become difficult when you are not mentally ready to part ways with your former partner. You may think getting over a break up often just happens in theory. While you become verbose about it, in the heart of your heart you still foster hopes of a reunion. You need to tell yourself that the relationship is over and that you have to start getting over it and move beyond. If you are not firm enough in your decision, you will be torn apart by your emotion and neither will you be sure that you want to get back with your previous partner nor will you be open to the idea of a new relationship.

You need to be clear about what you want. If you think you are having difficulty getting over your old partner, try to analyze the reasons for it. Why do you think you still want to be with them and what was so good about them that you can't move on? You have to be true with yourself while answering these questions if you are really interested in making a right decision.

Once you have the answers to the above-mentioned questions, you will exactly know where you stand and what you want. And these will be the tools to help you in getting a new brighter life. With so much of emotional turmoil within you, neither can you move on to a new relationship, nor can you let go of the past. Thus, getting over a break up becomes essential.


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