- Enjoy pleasing him.Laughter keeps a marriage strong. Men like to be appreciated even after you've married them. To do so well, be a well-rounded, pleasing person yourself.
- Have as your goal for each small interaction of your day, to leave him with a good feeling. Be supportive. Be nice. Be kind.
- Listen to his day and share yours. Being married also means being intimate. Intimacy does not always have to include sex. Intimacy is listening to one another and feeling comfortable enough to tell one another anything.
- Support him and try to understand his needs, a man likes nothing more than an understanding and an equally compromising wife.
- Don't show him even the mildest forms of contempt. Contempt is poison in a relationship. It is fine to disagree with him, but do not take on an attitude of superiority, even subtly in passing, such as momentary smirking, sighs of disgust or eye-rolling.
Don't do everything for him, but do things for him often. Don't let yourself be taken for granted, though! And more importantly, don't take him for granted.
- Don't be too insecure. Putting yourself down in front of him is another way of insulting his taste in women. If he is with you, its because he wants to be. He will find you sexy even if you don't feel like you, if you act the part. Remember that attitude and willingness are large parts of being sexy.
- Keep your sex life interesting. Be willing to try new things and discuss them--don't just turn them down immediatly if he suggests something you don't find appealing. That is just a way to disinterest him from you and reject him, which will eventually lead to problems. At least be willing to discuss it, and perhaps try it, but never do anything you are uncomfortable with after discussing it with him. Everything said here applies to him as well, if there is something you are interested in trying.
- Expect the best from him, too. If he wants to be treated well then he needs to do the same for you. You aren't his doormat!
- Don't expect the moon. Do not expect your husband to exactly follow wikiHow's "How To Be A Great Husband". He needs to keep trying, you need to keep trying, but neither of you is perfect. Unmet expectations tend to frustrate everyone. However, if you both plan on giving seventy percent of what is required to make the marriage work, you will always be covered, even when one of you comes up a little short.
- Give each other space. Go out with your friends. Let him do the same.
- Love him, care for him when he's sick and needs help. Don't obsess over him, but don't leave him entirely to himself. He does need love, just like you do, and many men especially appreciate attention when they are unwell.
- Compliment your husband. Everyone likes compliments, but you have to mean them.
- Ever so remind him that no one can take care of him like you can (even though He relies on his mother and grand-mother sometimes) by all means dont get offended by that.
Sense of humor is always best - find his inner child,laugh and relax with him
- Teach your children how to honor and respect him (by doing so yourself)
- Don't be afraid to challenge him (if you know that you know that you know)He'll find it sexy that you're willing to show him your strengths.
- When life gets difficult and you are not getting a long as well as you would like, find his "love language" and speak it abundantly. If it is gifts, give him gifts. If it is encouraging words, encourage him. If it is making love, then make love. You may even want to do something a little different. Most men have higher sex drives than women, so you adjust accordingly
- If you want something done, speak his love language and ask for the thing you want only once, give him space, and it will be done if it is at all possible.
- Nagging can damage a relationship. Instead of nagging, ask once, then leave it be. If he won't do something, then you shouldn't do it, either.
- If your expectations are truly too high or unrealistic, then set standards that are obtainable. It is unfair to expect to be lavished with possessions and have the love of your life home for every meal. Should you want more together time be prepared to have that desire fulfilled at some expense.
- Don't lie to him. Ever. Not even a little.
- If he really is lazy then be prepared to lovingly but firmly tell him - don't just pick a fight over it, but realise that if you won't pull him up for it, who will?
- Submission doesn't mean rolling over and dying every time you disagree - it means preferring his happiness to your own. Of course, this only works in a marriage if he prefers your happiness to HIS own too!
- Don't over spend. Even on groceries. Be responsible together with your money.
- Except in the rare event that your husband also happens to be psychic, don't expect mind-reading powers. If you want something, ask. If something is wrong, say so. Don't drop hints or figure he'll "come around", communicate calmly but clearly and directly.
- Make a comfortable place in the house where you both can be together, but almost "alone" at the same time. Not in each other's faces, but there for each other.
- If you're forced to do things (sexual, verbal, and physical) it's definitely not a very good relationship. Talk things out or see a counselor.
- If he turns violent, even once, make sure you're safe. Depending on the situation that might mean moving out, or calling the police, or telling someone what's happening - whatever you do, don't continue to suffer in silence, and don't accept abuse (physical or otherwise) in your relationship.
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