How To Use Communication And Humor To Attract Women
pavan • onMating & Dating 9 years ago • 6 min read

How To Use Communication And Humor To Attract Women

Now that we’ve covered some of the ‘inner’ game, I’d like to share with you some of the things that I’ve learned about the ‘outer’ game. In later chapters, I’m going to teach you the specifics of exactly what to say and what to do in different situations, but here I’d like to teach you some basics about communication that I think will really help you get the right frame of mind.

How Women Test Men And Why

In my opinion, most women, especially the ‘hotties’, have gone through a learning curve here in our western culture that has on average given them a sort of ‘predictable psychological makeup’. Now, there are differences between these women… some are smart, some are not… some are tall, some are short… some are cerebral, some are physical… etc. etc. etc… but there are things that most of them have in common.

I’ve made a study of these things… because this is what interests me. At some point in their lives, hotties began to be treated differently because they were attractive. I mentioned the social psychology concept earlier called ‘The Halo Effect’. Simply stated, attractive people are assumed to be smarter, more honest, more trustworthy, etc. than others. The fact that people do whatever the hottie wants begins to blur their sense of reality and makes them believe that they can have whatever they want whenever they want it… AND THAT’S JUST THE WAY LIFE IS. (This applies in general.)

You’ll notice that many super-hotties will throw tantrums if they don’t like what’s going on or aren’t getting their way… this is a sure sign that they are not living in the same reality as most people… when they don’t get what they want, they get upset because this has worked since they were little…

Now, on a subconscious level, I’ve noticed that most hot women realize that they are being ridiculous when they act like bitches, throw tantrums, etc. but it doesn’t really matter because it still WORKS for them when they want what they want… are you with me?

Underneath all of this behavior, they are still FEMALE and they are looking for what other females are also looking for… What are women looking for?

Well, for the record, I have no idea. After 30 years of studying people, Freud said that there was one question that he didn’t have the answer to… “What do women want?” Nice.

BUT, here’s my take on it: First and foremost, they want a man who is in CONTROL (of the situation, himself, his emotions, other people, her… control of the entire reality that they share).

Let me ask you, if you were a woman who wanted to test a man to see if he will stay in control, how would you do it? Would you ask the man, “If I get out of hand, will you spank me and put me in my place?” NO WAY!!!

So they test us by CHALLENGING us to see if we’ll stay in control. The reason I do all of this “Never give a woman a direct answer… unless it’s NO… Never give a woman exactly what she wants…” etc. is, ironically, to give her what she REALLY wants… a man who’s in control.

Women want a challenge. Think romance novel themes… if you don’t know what I’m talking about, sit yourself down for a week and read Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women by Jayne Krentz… How to Succeed With Women By Being A Jerk by F.J. Shark… Endless Rapture by Helen Hazen… and Bad Boys by Margie Palatini… and think about it.

Most of the time, I’m enjoying myself, talking about whatever comes up, making jokes, and generally behaving like a normal person. But, like anything else, if these techniques are used too much, they become worthless… so they must be used with precision and at the right moments.

What’s interesting is that because I usually (but not always) do these teasing and seemingly controlling things with a bit of a dry humor spin, I believe that the woman who I’m with has an internal response like, “Wow, this guy is cocky, but I can’t tell if he’s serious or not… and I want to find out… but either way, he’s funny and he’s staying interested in me and not being flagrantly abusive… so he must be interested at SOME level…”

The key is to WATCH FOR THE TESTS and be ready when they come. Most guys screw up when a woman acts bratty… or when a woman gets upset, they say, “Oh, I’m sorry” and mess it up. Or they act nervous, etc. You have to stay in control… If a woman starts getting angry, instead of getting nervous say, “Oh, poor baby is throwing a tantrum… So what. You’ve been doing the same thing since you were 2, and you didn’t get your way.” SPANK!

Another realization I’ve had is that most women are totally intrigued by men who seem uninterested and crass… it’s almost like they say to themselves, “Wow, this guy seems kind of cocky… and I can’t believe that he’s not interested in having sex with me like all the other dumb pussies that I meet… He’s funny and smart… I wonder if I can get him interested in me… and when I do, I’ll just dump him like the other losers… but this might be fun…” Get it?

But if you are going to act this way, you have to keep it up until the end… and I mean to the end. I’m going to address the ‘treating women well’ issue again.

I treat women very well… they always tell me that they’ve never met a man who treats them so well, etc. How can this be when I seem like such a ball buster? Well, it’s simple really… I do nice things for them ON MY OWN TERMS.

I will surprise them with a thoughtful email or a card… or I might give them a nice massage… I open doors and walk on the outside of the curb… But part of most women’s romantic fantasy (in my opinion) is the man taking control of the situation and doing things on HIS terms.

Try it for yourself… next time you’re going to meet a woman, tell her what to wear… choose the food and tell her to trust you… if she asks for a kiss, say, “No”… but kiss her later when YOU feel like it… if you know that she likes chocolate, and she asks for some… don’t give it to her… but surprise her with some next time you see her… get it?



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