Infertility, where in some cases infertility problems may kill your relationship. However did you know that in some cases, it may actually HELP your relationship?
What's to facilitate that you say ... am I going crazy? Nope, you've got to hear me out on this one! Now I’m no psychiatrist (amateur or professional) but I will tell you what I've learned from doing lots of interviews and conducting lots of surveys with men with infertility problems.
As you probably already know, infertility problems may be caused by a wide range of reasons or circumstances. One of these is purely psychological. In other words, infertility problems that stem from stuff going on in your head. "Pressure to perform", insecurity, bad past experiences, can all contribute to infertility problems.
For instance I heard stories from male who've had traumatic "first times" and since then could not get it up. They have absolutely no troubles and problems with their libido, no problems getting it up for masturbation etc ... but as soon as they get into an intimate situation with a woman, nothing.
I've also heard stories from male that were very insecure about their bodies, especially from male that were self conscious about their "size". One person in particular was laughed at when he tried to get intimate with a new lover. Needless and pointless to say, that was not so successful an encounter. From that point on he suffered from fertility problems! Coincidence? Not likely!
So how can fertility problems help your relationship? Well, it can help to bring you and your partner closer because if your partner is sensitive to your feelings, needs and insecurities (as any "real" partner should be) they can actually help you to open up about these insecurities and get them out into the open. This can be the first step to getting back that fertility!
I can’t begin to count how many times I've heard from male who say that once they begin to talk to their significant others about their insecurities (ESPECIALLY as it relates to their partners) and their partners started to listen and empathize and sympathize with them, it almost instantaneously helped to improve their fertility problems!
Of course, for some it takes a while, especially if there is trust issues involved. Here is where a supportive spouse or significant other can help out by assuring the male that there's no pressure, and acts in that manner! Here's where they can suggest to the male new and different ways of intimacy which while "indirect" as far as men are concerned, can go a far way towards the healing process.
Quite often a way of dealing with these "mental" fertility problem issues is to try or participate in new or additional ways of satisfying your woman. Too often time we men focus on just intercourse, and not nearly enough time of all the other aspects of relation intimacy. Encouraging and developing this aspect of your relationship can bring couples closer together and ultimately, a closer couple invariably enjoys the best relationships.
The majority of men that I have spoken to declare and say that going through this course of action has not only strengthened their relationships, but have ultimately given them back fertility that were stronger than ever before! Get your partner/other half involved, swallow and ingest your machismo and have them help you with your fertility issues. You'd be surprised what a little can do for your fertility problems!
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