Pregnancy is a time for great sex for some couples and for some it may be a time of concern and fears. Discuss your feelings and fears with each other.
Your husband may find your pregnant body more desirable, whereas you may feel anxious about your baby’s well being. Discuss your differences as friends and reassure your love for each other. In case of any doubt or fears about sex during pregnancy, take it up openly and discuss it with your doctor.
If you're pregnant or even planning a pregnancy, you've probably found lots of information about sex before pregnancy (that is, having sex in order to conceive) and sex after childbirth (general consensus: expect a less-active sex life when there's a newborn in the house).
But there's less talk about the topic of sex during pregnancy, perhaps because of cultural tendencies to not associate expectant mothers with sexuality. Like many parents-to-be, you may have questions about the safety of sex and what's normal for most couples.
Well, what's normal can vary widely, but you can count on the fact that there will be changes in your sex life. Open communication will be the key to a satisfying and safe sexual relationship during pregnancy.
There are many reasons why sex during pregnancy can be more enjoyable, even if your are doing it less. There is an increase in vaginal lubrication, engorgement of the genital area helps some people become orgasmic for the first time or multi-orgasmic, the lack of birth control, or if you have been trying for awhile, a return to sex as pleasure as opposed to procreational, and other reasons.
What should be avoided?
Avoid violent sex and deep penetration as it can hurt you. Sex should be gentle during pregnancy.
Avoid using any foreign objects during sex.
Avoid sex in tubs or in beds or couches that are not strong enough.
Clean your pelvic area thoroughly after you make love. Wipe dry with a clean towel or tissue paper.
Avoid using any lubricating creams or gels as these may irritate your skin and cause allergic reactions.
Will sex harm the baby?
You won't hurt the baby by making love, even with your partner on top. The thick mucus plug that seals the cervix helps guard against infection. The amniotic sac and the strong muscles of the uterus also protect your baby. Though your fetus may thrash around a bit after orgasm, it's because of your pounding heart, not because he knows what's happening or feels pain. There are some important circumstances, however, in which you may be advised not to have intercourse.
Remember sex is not the only way to feel good. You can give each other a massage, have a relaxed bath together, or generally cuddle up together.
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